However you define success, there’s a way for you to reach it!
Smart women pursue career growth strategically. Life happens and work life can create challenges for women’s career growth. Because women are more likely than men to spend more time doing household chores and childcare, you may feel bogged down. That’s why a strategy, defined as “a plan of action or policy designed to achieve a major or overall aim,” can help you focus.
When you think strategically without the emotions guiding your planning, you are able to be realistic and thoughtful.
Smart women manage these challenges for success by following these 6 strategies for success:
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Learn to separate small irritants from major issues or challenges. Don’t allow people to “push your buttons”. Emotional Intelligence is the capacity to manage your emotions and not allow them to overcome your reactions and interactions. Self-care means that we let go of fallout from meaningless interactions that cause us to doubt ourselves
Learn to look at yourself objectively. That means we have to become aware of our emotions, self-talk, and who we are from another ‘s perspective. Being self-aware allows you to think about the situation from a clear head. In addition, understanding who you are in these situations provides an opportunity to practice building your Emotional Quotient (EQ). Successful leaders practice high EQ in their interactions. This doesn’t mean that you don’t have emotions. It means you recognize the emotions and then make a clear decision about how you want to respond for your best health.
Be aware of others’ opinions.
Remember that the need for approval can derail your success. You need to be aware of other’s perceptions in order to hone your personal brand and sharpen your emotional quotient. Separate other’s opinions about you from their perception of you. It doesn’t matter if you think their perception of you is false, it is their perception.
Find tools and approaches that work for you.
Clean questions “What do I want?” “What do I know?” “What do I need to learn?’ These questions offer you a chance to explore the situation from a clear perspective. Each challenge that you face will present opportunities for you to grow and find the right path to your success.
Frustrations, difficult people, and disappointing setbacks can wreak havoc with our sense of self and confidence. Don’t allow others to pull you off your course. Once you have determined where you want to grow, stay focused on your plan. Consequently, like any good hike there are obstacles and barriers that may attempt to block your way. When you stay focused with a clear mind and heart you can overcome them.
Others’ doubts and options are just that, their doubts and their opinions. Deborah Brown stated, “Not everyone will understand what you want to accomplish in your career. Maybe you want a new job but the people in your life tell you to forget about it and just be happy where you are. Or, you want a new career, but you are told it doesn’t make sense or you won’t make enough money.”
Some roadblocks may be insurmountable. However, that doesn’t mean that you give up your goals. You may need to adjust them and revise them as life happens.
Each time you meet a roadblock ask yourself the clean question: “How does this alter my original plan?” It may simply mean you are in the wrong place at the wrong time. As a result, strategically determine what change you need to make to create the best opportunity for your dreams and aspirations.
Actually, our dreams or goals often change based on new information. New experiences, relationships, or life events may alter what we think and feel about our career growth. Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook stated in her book, Option B, after the death of her husband: “Option A is not available so let’s kick the heck out of Option B.” Option B is what you determine is best for you after Option A doesn’t work out. Bouncing back from seeming failure can help you be successful.
Remember that blaming others or frustrating doesn’t help you; it only hinders your clear thinking about next steps after something thwarts your well-planned progress. Keep yourself on the path by following the six strategies outline
Remember to relax, take a deep breath, and ask yourself those clean questions to determine what Option B means to you. You may just find out that Option B was the best path after all.
Pat Magerkurth is a life/business coach who studied women in the workplace. Her extensive experience business can help you determine your best strategy for career growth. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org for a free consultation to determine if working together will help you move forward build a plan for your career growth.
Successfully navigating 3 common workplace challenges women face when climbing the corporate ladder delivers workplace success. Everyone faces challenges at work, but for women the challenges may be different. Oftentimes women may not speak up in meetings with their ideas. Sometimes others in the room coopt a woman’s idea as their own and take credit for it. Understanding the importance of everyone’s input creates an atmosphere of collaboration not competition. Women may feel that they need to recover their voice in order to succeed. And women often struggle with the fact that women want to be nice and don’t assert ourselves so challenges when climbing the corporate ladder present obstacles to success. Our mothers often taught us to defer and deflect rather than take credit for our contribution. These three strategies will help you face these common workplace challenges and navigate the corporate environment.
“It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.”
Finding your voice
Corporate cultures often suppress women’s voices. As a result women may leave their true passions unspoken. Bringing your whole self to work helps you find your voice. Because women may not know their own voice, they fear speaking out at work.
Be prepared and know what you want to accomplish. Prepare with reasons why you are right for the assignment or project. Ask for the promotion or assignment from a place of preparedness.
Increase your self-confidence. Take a self-assessment and understand the value you bring to the table. Find a mentor who can help you determine your worth and articulate how those benefits relate to what you are asking for. “Believe in yourself. If you don’t know what value you bring to the table, no one else will.”
Make contributions with purpose and an understanding of what’s needed to succeed.
Come to the table with an opinion or option that you can back up with data and show that you did your homework.
Give credit where credit is due. Women in the Obama administration used a technique they called amplification. They recognized each other openly for their achievements, accomplishments, and ideas. When a colleague has a good idea, compliment her on it to discourage men from taking credit for her idea.
Open the floor to another woman. After making your point, direct your attention to a female coworker and ask her if she has any additional thoughts. Women are often unable to break into the conversation as men dominate the floor. This strategic approach increases the chance that others hear you.
Practice speaking up whenever you can. Even when it is a small internal meeting, use that opportunity to practice your skills. The more often you speak up the easier it becomes enabling others to hear you.
Start with a positive, not a negative. Review your unconscious speaking habits and be sure to use forceful or powerful language. When we worry about what others will think, we may speak hesitantly of downplay our own ideas or input.
Be mindful of your tone. Practice a strong tone of voice. Avoid raising your voice at the end of a sentence, which can indicate a question. Speak with a steady even tone. Practice with a trusted friend or record yourself to identify any unconscious habits or tone of voice issues.
Stand on your own two feet. Stand up for yourself. Mentors and colleagues are great, but it is critical that you are accountable for your own ideas, work, and input.
Four Strategies Using Resilience to Recover Your Voice
Recovering Your Voice
Resilience helps you find your voice. Because it acts like a muscle, the more resilient you become the stronger it grows. Life always deals out setbacks and challenges. Self-control and resilience delivers greater strength for finding and expressing your voice. Resilience exemplifies the capacity to get back up, brush yourself off, and jump back in. These three tips help you recognize, develop, and maintain a resilient life force.
It isn’t personal. Keep reminding yourself that the only person you can control is you. Check out your feelings and remind yourself that it isn’t all about you. Most people come into a situation with their own motives and filters. Distancing yourself allows you to see the situation more clearly without the emotions.
Be aware of your filters. Each person views the world through a set of filters that includes their sex, family background, and basic personality traits. As a result your filters mix with life situations and these factors color the way we react and view situations. Consequently, self-awareness underpins resilience.
Taking a strategic approach to situations means that you step back and review the issues without emotion. Consequently, you can then make a clear decision about how you want to respond. You decide how you want others to view you. As a result you better understand your situation and the filters that color your perspective on these common workplace challenges.
This probably feels unnatural at first, but with practice your resilient approach grows stronger. Resilience takes practice and work to develop and maintain. In the light of setbacks review what happened and assess your part in the situation. Ask yourself, “What could I have done differently to foster a different outcome?” Be objective, try to remove your emotions, and then make a decision to try a different approach the next time. Use your emotions as a way to gage the situation and make a decision about how you want to respond.
Most of all value yourself. Self-love fosters finding your voice, being heard, and developing resilience. As a result, self care says, “I value myself and my well-being.” And remember no one is responsible for you, but you. Especially, list three things you want to say or want others to hear. And list ways you can be more resilient and less reactive.
“Women are still in emotional bondage as long as we need to worry that we might have to make a choice between being heard and being loved.” Marianne Williamson
Understanding these three common workplace challenges women face while climbing the corporate ladder gives you great insight into why you may feel stuck. It highlights the areas you can focus on to grow in your career. If you work these three strategies and still find it frustrating or challenging, coaching can help. Please reach out, if I can help you find your best path forward.
Pat Magerkurth is a life/business coach who studied women in the workplace. Her extensive experience developing resilience and speaking out can help you find your voice and be heard. Contact her at email@example.com for a free consultation.